Forgiveness is something that is freely given to all followers of Christ. It’s easier said than done to accept His forgiveness, though. Saying sorry may be easy to say in day-to-day life, but sometimes it’s harder to say sorry to the one who accepts all apologies. 

I Am: Forgiven

Kendall Berdinsky

“In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace” – Ephesians 1:7

“I’m sorry.”

It has been scientifically proven again and again that women say “sorry” excessively. Heck, even Pantene did a commercial on it. Women, especially young women, are apologizing more than ever, most of the time unnecessarily, and for things that they needn’t apologize for.

So, why are we saying sorry all the time?

When I was in pre-school, there was a lesson on forgiveness. I was super excited to learn a new, big word, and really wanted to impress my mom with my newfound smarts. That day when my mom picked me up, I got in the car, and immediately said, “Mom, I forgive you.”. She was a little confused to say the least.

She told me that there was no reason for me to forgive her, since she hadn’t apologized for anything. She hadn’t done anything that needed my forgiveness. She expanded and said that forgiveness was a response to “I’m sorry”, and not the other way around. This was a lot for my small brain to handle.

The difference with Jesus and forgiveness is, We actually need to be forgiven, because we have done everything that needs forgiveness. We have sinned one thousand times over, and when we fall at the feet of Jesus, we are apologizing. That’s the time when we ask for forgiveness from our Creator.

The thing is, we are already forgiven. When we come to Jesus with brokenness and humility, He says it’s okay, because He already took on the world for us. Psalm 103:12 says this perfectly:

“As far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us” 

From the east to the west, all the ends of the Earth, He has forgiven us. He removes our sin from us, no matter how wide or deep they go. This is an all-powerful forgiveness from an all-powerful and all-loving God.

So, why are we saying sorry? I often feel inadequate. I feel ill-equipped, and I apologize to anyone who will listen. Whether it’s saying sorry to my professor for turning something in late, or saying sorry for coughing in a quiet room, ‘sorry’ is a part of my daily life.

The only person we need to say sorry to is Jesus, not to any of the things of this world. Jesus has redeemed us, and calls us free from the sin that binds us here. When we lay our sins at his feet, He calls us forgiven.

Sometimes we feel like we have to be the best version of ourselves in order to accept His forgiveness and grace. Jesus says He wants us to come to Him no matter what. He extends His grace to us, especially when we are broken. We don’t have to be in a certain place to accept His grace, we only have to acknowledge our need for His grace to have it. 

We are 0% perfect, 100% forgiven.